Love - A Portrait Painted by God
We have seen what love is not, but let's look at what love is.
First, we must remember two important aspects about love; it is a decision, not
an emotion and it is an action word. Love is not based on what you feel; it's
based on a commitment that you have made. It is also not passive or reactive;
love is always proactive.
We all have a sin nature, and sometimes we
will express a love that is tainted by that nature. However, we can avoid
living like this. How?
It begins with setting a direction, a flavor to our life. 1 Cor.
13 shows us what love would look like. Being that it is proactive, it does not
just happen. It requires the power of the Holy Spirit and some lifestyle
decisions by us to avoid expressing the “NOTS” of love.
Love is patient, love is kind, and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act
unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into
account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with
the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all
things.
Let's unpack the statements here about love and apply them
directly to our life.
Learn to
think of others first!
One lifestyle change that love will cause is that we will learn
to think of others first. It is quite natural for the old man to always look
inward and take care of himself. However, love points our focus outward at
others…
Beginning with God and in extending to those around us. Consider what Paul says
in Philippians:
Philip. 2:3-5 Do nothing from selfishness or empty
conceit, but with humility of mind let each of you regard one another as more
important than himself; do not merely look out for your own personal interests,
but also for the interests of others. Have this attitude in yourselves which
was also in Christ Jesus,
Empathize
One of the key problems with our flesh is that we view life
from our perspective only. This is another change that happens when we allow
love to control our perception of things. We will empathize with those that we
do love, in other words we will see from someone else's point of view, not just
ours. This is what Christ did as stated in Hebrews:
Hebrews 4:15 For we do not have a high priest who cannot
sympathize with our weaknesses, but One who has been tempted in all things as
we are, yet without sin.
Serve others instead of always being served
How? This is where we begin to understand how much of a
decision love is. It is not normal for us to “feel” like serving people…
Contrarily, in our flesh we feel the opposite way – we want others to
serve us. However, when love is in control we make a willful decision to serve
others as Christ did. Again, notice how proactive love must be. Christ spoke of
this in Matthew:
Matthew 20:25-28 But Jesus called them to Himself, and
said, "You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and
their great men exercise authority over them. "It is not so among you, but
whoever wishes to become great among you shall be your servant, and whoever
wishes to be first among you shall be your slave; just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to
serve, and to give His life a ransom for many."
Surrender your agenda
One of the marks of real love is when we are willing to
surrender our agenda for what God desires. This sometimes can be very difficult
because we have limited vision, so we don't see the big picture. Many times
this will lead us to a quick fix, yet it may miss the point. God has an agenda
for every circumstance; if we love we will yield to his agenda and not push on
with our own. Job experience this with his friends:
Job 2:11-13 When Job's three friends, Eliphaz the Temanite, Bildad the
Shuhite and Zophar the Naamathite, heard about all the troubles that had come
upon him, they set out from their homes and met together by agreement to go and
sympathize with him and comfort him. When they saw him from a distance, they
could hardly recognize him; they began to weep aloud, and they tore their robes
and sprinkled dust on their heads. Then they sat on the ground with him for seven days and seven
nights. No one said a word to him, because they saw how great his suffering
was.
Job's friends started out right, they sat with their friend and
wept with him – in other words they sustained him through his pain. Sadly,
their love had a time limit, and they quickly moved to the agenda they had,
which was to show Job that he'd done something wrong and God was punishing him.
Here are the mistakes they made because of their own agenda (1)
a good and innocent person never suffers; (2) those who suffer are being
punished for their past sins; and (3) Job, because he was suffering, had done
something wrong in God’s eyes.
After it was all said and done and Job met with God, the Lord
addressed these friends:
Job 42:7 After the Lord had said these things to Job, he said to
Eliphaz the Temanite, "I am angry with you and your two friends, because
you have not spoken of me what is right, as my servant Job has.
The Lord makes it quite clear to these men that their agenda
represented God in a wrong light. Our fleshy love will be agenda driven, and if
not careful can bring judgment from the Lord. Real love yields to the agenda of
the one person that knows all.
Take some time today to examine what kind of love you are
expressing. Compare this partial list with the “NOTS” list we made. Where can you see a need
for change? What steps do you need to make in your thinking to allow the Spirit
room to produce growth? What is your agenda? Have you laid your agenda before the throne of God and asked
Him to have His agenda override yours?
posted by Blogology - Nathan Leigh @ 6:28 PM
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